An abusive man tends to deny he has a problem and blames his spouse when confronted with evidence of his violence. Being arrested for spouse abuse and facing trial forces abusers to recognize how seriously society views their behavior. Diversionary treatment with the condition of prosecution in the event of noncompliance is effective in getting abusers into treatment. Small group treatment with other abusers helps them accept their problem. Because abusers are isolated with a shameful problem, they do not receive validating feedback and support from others. This circumstance is remedied through small-group treatment experiences. Due to low ego strength an abuser chooses a spouse upon whom he can focus his dependency needs. This is addressed in small group sessions which focus on responsibility and communication in relationships. Preliminary research indicates that small, all-male groups which address the emotional dynamics and inappropriate learning that typify abusive men have attended the cessation of violence. 15 references.