The analysis revealed that a substantial proportion of children will be sexually abused or victimized before age 18 and that the majority of perpetrators of abduction and child molestation are not strangers. Various studies also make it clear that the concept of stranger is difficult for children to understand. In addition, tragic and highly publicized child victimization cases have heightened the awareness of families regarding child safety and have simultaneously increased fear. Parental fears about abduction may inhibit parents' ability to promote independence and self-reliance in their children. Findings also reveal that traditional messages to children are either wrong or incomplete. These messages have contained three basic premises: (1) do not take candy from strangers, (2) do not be a tattletale, and (3) do what the adult says. Instead, families should receive the message that they do not have to live in fear, but they do need to be alert, cautious, and prepared. Communication is the central element in child safety. Children's best protections are their ability to think and their preparation for responding to certain situations. Tables and 7 references