Information and suggestions are presented in six general categories: (1) Understanding Our Reactions to Conflict, including discussion of becoming more comfortable with differences and conflict as a learned behavior; (2) Seeing Conflict Differently, including ways to measure one's comfort level with differences and to rethink conflict resolution, and the possibility of conflict transformation; (3) Self-Reflection, including evaluation of how we react to differences and conflicts and assessment of our own role in the tense relationship; (4) Centering on Inner Power, on a higher force, a spiritual dimension an energy that individuals experience and define in different ways; (5) Turning Inner Power Into Transforming Power, including alternatives to violence; (6) Defining Our Options, which can be action-oriented or thought-centered, and include not pursuing the matter further, pursuing it with the other person, waiting for a moment of grace, and seeking a mediator. Footnotes, bibliography