Figures for abused women are the most often quoted figures regarding domestic violence in support of funding for and attention to the problem, and the equal or greater number of male victims is often ignored. Studies demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive or are more aggressive than men in their relationships and that most domestic violence is mutual and would not happen without a history of such violence in the family of origin. Women probably suffer more total injuries ranging from mild to serious because they are struck with the most readily available instrument, the human hand, but the injury rate is about the same or perhaps greater for men when it comes to serious injuries involving weapons and other objects. Men also face other factors that abused women do not face as much, ridicule and isolation. Challenges in helping abused men are noted, and the need to deal with the total reality of domestic violence, to include both violent men and violent women, is emphasized.