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Communicating: How to Confront Kids When They're Doing Wrong, How to Encourage Kids When They're Doing Right

NCJ Number
189500
Author(s)
Richard Stachelek
Editor(s)
Jay Horan, Richard Stachelek
Date Published
1997
Length
22 pages
Annotation
This materials kit includes a videotape for parents and a group facilitator’s manual; the materials focus on parenting skills to children to be responsible, nonviolent, and drug-free, with emphasis on recognizing ineffective communication styles and using appropriate skills to encourage positive behavior and confront negative behavior.
Abstract
The manual presents background on juvenile violence and juvenile alcohol and other drug use and emphasizes the role of parental influence. It presents guidelines on how to prepare and conduct a group training session for parents. The videotape is one of six parenting videos in the series. It presents six vignettes depicting common situations in which children and their parents interact. Each scene depicts the parent using an ineffective communication technique and parenting role, including the drill sergeant, the prosecuting attorney, the egomaniac, the comedian, the psychiatrist, and the avoider. The discussion next explains and depicts appropriate communication techniques for handling the same scenarios. These start with active listening, which consists of asking appropriate questions, clarifying the message, using eye contact and appropriate facial expressions, giving verbal encouragement, and listening for nonverbal cues and helping to bring underlying feelings to the surface. It also explains the steps in communicating effectively either when a child or adolescent behaves inappropriately or when the young person behaves appropriately. Exercises for parents and prevention resources, including books, booklets, and videotapes