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NCJ Number: 140182 Find in a Library
Title: Hell Is My Husband
Author(s): B Gaines
Date Published: 1992
Page Count: 413
Sponsoring Agency: Paragraph Publications
Pompano Beach, FL 33072
Publication Number: ISBN 0-9630053-0-8
Sale Source: Paragraph Publications
P.O. Box 2954
Pompano Beach, FL 33072
United States of America
Type: Citizen Involvement Material
Language: English
Country: United States of America
Annotation: The author details her experiences as an emotionally abused wife, noting that she was one of the statistics that indicate 50 percent of all American women will be abused at sometime in their marriage.
Abstract: She experienced abuse during her second marriage; her husband used any means available to control. In the course of dealing with the abuse, she found that many women do not recognize abuse or are too confused or afraid to face it. Further, many women delude themselves, thinking it cannot happen to them and that no one would believe them even if abuse occurred. The author stresses the importance of speaking out and of emphasizing the victimizer rather than the victim. She talks about the nature of disorientation due to emotional abuse, a state of mind when it becomes impossible to evaluate objectively what is going on. In addition, she presents a graphic guide to the small daily situations associated with constant changes in her husband's attitudes and personality. Her experiences demonstrate both the subtle behavior and glaring signals associated with an abusive relationship. Although the author offers many practical steps to minimize stress and emotional pain, she identifies five basic survival steps: 1) know a safe place to go in an emergency, 2) rent a post office box, 3) open an individual checking account, 4) hide extra keys outside of the house, and 5) compile records of important information.
Main Term(s): Abused women
Index Term(s): Abusing spouses; Battered wives; Emotional Abuse/Harm
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