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NCJ Number: 220394 Find in a Library
Title: Grief Like No Other: Surviving the Violent Death of Someone You Love
Author(s): Kathleen O'Hara M.A.
Date Published: 2006
Page Count: 252
Sponsoring Agency: Marlowe & Co
New York, NY 10011-5200
Publication Number: ISBN-13: 978-1-56924-2971
Sale Source: Marlowe & Co
245 West 17th Street,, 11 Floor
New York, NY 10011-5200
United States of America
Type: Issue Overview
Format: Book (Softbound)
Language: English
Country: United States of America
Annotation: This book offers help to people who have experienced traumatic loss.
Abstract: Violent death which includes suicide, drug overdose, and death by vehicular homicide and drunk drivers causes survivors a different kind of grief. From intense feelings of guilt, anger, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), to years spent dealing with the legal ramifications, those left behind in the wake of violence have to contend with unique circumstances that are different from a natural death. As a therapist who has counseled many people through their grief, and as a mother whose college-age son was brutally murdered, the author developed a seven-stage journey to overcoming a traumatic loss; that seven-stage journey is at the heart of the book. Kathleen O’Hara offers concrete, practical, and compassionate steps for those who are grieving, allowing family and friends safe passage through this harrowing journey. The book offers help to those left behind to cope realistically with feelings of guilt, terror, anger, and anxiety; to develop inner resources and a support network essential to survival; and to find real answers to the most difficult question of how to go on after losing a loved one to violence. It is also recommended reading for victim service providers, therapists, and all those who can only imagine what it must be like to experience traumatic loss. The seven stages include: telling the story and speaking out to help gain mastery over emotions; discovering the eight qualities of inner resources-courage, hope, faith, spirituality, optimism, humor, patience, joy, and compassion, and learning how to use them; finding outside guidance and resources for assistance; learning to deal with the struggles of birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays; learning to practice the three principles of acceptance, forgiveness, and gratitude; generating creativity to transform grief and sorrow into honor for the departed; and finally, embracing emerging possibilities in the future. List of resources
Main Term(s): Coping; Families of crime victims; Grief
Index Term(s): Citizen reactions to crime; Post-trauma stress disorder (PTSD); Psychological victimization effects; Victims of violent crime; Violence
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